How to be Effective
Speak on our terms — not theirs: Avoid using hot button language that is intentionally being mischaracterized. Say what you mean with simple language that reflects your community values.
Aim to engage, not educate: People tend to shut down when they feel like they’re being “educated.” Instead, bring them into the conversation, by hearing their perspectives, asking questions, and thanking them for sharing.
Share the truth, but know when to leave: Remember that not everyone will be willing to listen, and it’s not your responsibility to convince everyone at the table. Make sure to acknowledge how you’re feeling and take time to practice routines of selfcare.
As we continue to navigate fraught and intense discussions, it’s important that we step away from hot-button language and humanize the debate. This language will help allies transition away from the opposition’s framing so that we can get the conversation back on our terms.
When confronted with opposition talking points or concerns:
DO address concerns earnestly, and inoculate against the worst misconceptions
DON’T debate the meaning of jargon, or dismiss concerns outright.
Sample pivot and inoculation statements:
I hear what you’re saying. I think we can both agree that we want our kids to feel valued and accepted. That’s why…
I hear your concern, and I want to be clear that isn’t what is happening in our classrooms. What we both care about is…
Parent involvement is great and I am so glad you are involved in your kids' education. In fact, parents and teachers should work together to…